Mantra for Love: Sopurkh

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There is a beautiful practice in the tradition of Kundalini Yoga called the So Purkh or Sopurkh that involves the recitation of a certain mantra 11 times a day. The So Purkh was given by Guru Ram Das, the 4th guru of the Sikhs, to women as a way of helping women to raise the vibration of the men in their lives. A woman can say the So Purkh for a particular man in her life such as her husband, to help him live up to his full potential, or she can say it even to attract into her life her perfect mate if she has not met him yet. The So Purkh, if said for a minimum of 40 straight days, is said to manifest God in physical male form in front of a woman.

I had been reciting Sopurkh for 39 days for the men in my life. It was a beautiful, healing process that I could feel was releasing my own karma around men. Many nights I had dreams where I met old boyfriends for tea and we had conversations about our present day lives and said goodbye. I could feel karma lifting and ties being cut. I could also see positive changes happening in the lives of the men for whom I was saying the prayer.

On the 40th day of my half an hour recitation of the Sopurkh, I met the Dalai Lama. He came to Parmarth Niketan to speak and stayed in a room just down the hall from mine. He shook my hand and looked kindly into my eyes. Ladies and gentleman, the Sopurkh works. God in male physical form was manifested in front of me on the 40th day. One week previously I had not even an idea that the Dalai Lama would be coming to Rishikesh and on the 40th day of my meditation, I received the blessing of the one who many consider to be the holiest man alive.

I’m still reeling from the meeting. His energy was graceful and peaceful, self confident and humble. I certainly can’t stop my meditation now…if that happens at day 40, what can happen at day 90 or even day 1,000?

A beautiful recording of the Sopurkh was done by the lovely Nirinjan Kaur Khalsa (Sopurkh That Primal God). View the complete mantra on Mantra-pedia.

(originally posted on Ramdesh’s blog, No Ordinary Light)


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Ramdesh Kaur, MA, is an IKYTA Certified Kundalini Yoga teacher trained by Gurmukh. She writes extensively on yoga, spirituality and mantra. She hosts the show "Spirit Voyage Radio with Ramdesh" on Unity FM, one of the Top 100 Itunes Podcasts, and leads Spirit Voyage's 40 Day Global Sadhanas, which bring together 20,000 meditators from 65 countries. Before working with Spirit Voyage, she was the residential Kundalini yoga teacher at Parmarth Niketan in Rishikesh, India in the Himalyan foothills, and has a Master's Degree from the Courtauld Institute in London. She is the author of "Yoga and Mantras for a Whole Heart" with Karan Khalsa and has three best selling guided meditation CDs "Journey into Stillness", "Relaxation Meditations", and "Stress Relief Meditations" (with crystal singing bowl master Ashana) all available on Spirit Voyage, ITunes and Amazon. She teaches at festivals internationally and leads powerful personal creativity retreats in Mexico with her partner Harnam Singh, an accomplished mantra musician. www.ramdesh.com

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  1. Hello I have been reciting so purkh for the past 7 days and I don’t know why but, I feel down and upset all the time! I never used to feel like this!

    Any suggestions why this happens?

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  2. Sat nam Ramdesh,

    Thank you so much for your show – I’m a regular listener and it, together with other sources that seem to deliver just the right mantra at just the right time, have been real catalysts for transformation in my life. I am extremely grateful, and extremely awed by the power of mantra, and of kundalini yoga.
    This is a very old thread, so I hope you still receive notifications on comments here, but I had a query regarding So Purkh – I chanced upon it about a fortnight ago, and have been listening / attempting to chant it since then, daily, 11 times (with the aid of a YouTube vid) and I feel resonance, even though the words still elude me. My query is this: I feel as though, suddenly, my relationship with my husband is fraught – not in any disturbing way, but I’m struggling with our daily interaction, in a way that feels at odds with the first sweet balm that i felt so purkh brought us. To clarify, we’re happily married, but obviously there are areas of issue, as with any relationship, and I wondered – is it possible that the mantra digs up issues / exposes areas that need illumination – is that something that mantras of transformation do, or am I foisting far too much responsibility on the mantra (whoops!)?

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  3. Satsriakal
    I had a breakup n he needs time I want him back in my life as he the only one I love what I can do to love me back which mantra I should chant please help

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  4. Can unmarried girls do so purkh path for 40 days to attract a man for marriage into her life?can she attract any specific man,a man who is still single to like her and marry her? And how to start the so purkh path?do we need to take a vow will do it for 40 days continuosly non stop.. Pls help me thank you

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  5. What mantras can men do, to bring a quality woman in their lives ? Is so purkh only for women ?

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  6. Thanx Ramdesh Kaur Ji, Plz suggest me a mantra for job also? Im badly in need for a good job? And how many days and how many times i have to read the mantra Bhand Jameeai and how, i mean in which i have a read this mantra.

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  7. Is sopurkh can also be chant by man to get their love? I love a girl but she don’t know it and shes so far from me? Will it work to get her back?

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    • Sat nam Baljinder, Sopurkh cannot be used to manipulate another in this way. I would suggest you study the mantra Bhand Jameeai and honor all women, thus allowing the right woman to come into your life. ~Ramdesh

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  8. hi…..
    i love someone ..due to some family probim my lover make distance form me …so i saw this so purkh path ..i did..but it showed me negative effact ….my lover completely go away from me ..then tell me ..what the problm ? is i should recite again ..? how can i get marry with my lover ..plzzzzzzzzz tell me any path …plzzzzzzz help me ..im sikh ..do u belive in nagar lagna ? some my frds say ..it nagar to our relationship ..that why break up ..plzzz help …what should i do …?

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  9. hey,
    i have a problem so stressed up… first my parents agree to whom i love.. behind m back they back my relationship will sopurkh help me

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  10. Hi
    Can I recite sopurkh if my parents are aganist my love! Where as it is first they agreed to my relationship we wer about to get engaged! I had traveled aboard to come they caled it an off n I should stay away from him

    Please help

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  11. Hey! Can I do sopurkh if my parents are aganist my relationship? First they accepted the proposal now when I traveled aboard to come back they broke it? Please help

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  12. Hello,

    I am on day 26 of Sopurkh, and have seen some divine results for which I am grateful, but there has also been days of the very opposite reaction to diviine from my husband, fighting and anger and blame etc…..can you please advise if this is also part of the sopurkh process?

    Thanks

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    • I think it may just be a part of your relationship’s process, rather than the Sopurkh. Keep holding the high watch and giving yourself to this beautiful prayer. You may also want to try the aquarian sadhana in the amrit vela, if you are not doing so already, to get out any emotional garbage. Blessings, Ramdesh

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  13. One man loved me and suddenly he said no to me because of some family issues and now again he says he wants to marry me but as per society we have different caste system hence in that case can i recite it to avoid all problems coming for us to unite…..please suggest

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    • Sat nam Jaspreet, You can recite it to clear your own karma surrounding men and availability, and if he is the right man then it may open a path for you. You can’t say a mantra to control another’s actions. I’d also suggest the mantra Mangala Saaj Baheeai, which is specifically for attracting your soul mate. All love in divine and Blessings, Ramdesh

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  14. Can Sopurkh, be done anytime, anywhere. i.e. how about when you are doing stuff in the bathroom, is it ok to recite then, or must a more sacred place be found?

    Also can you end up doing it more than 11 times?

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    • Sopurkh can be done anytime, anywhere, but use your best judgement to make it respectful of the technology and power of the sacred words. Blessings, Ramdesh

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    • And yes, you can do it more than 11 times. It is Gurbani, so you can sing it as much as you want. 11 is recommended.

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  15. Dear Ramdesh,

    is it possible to recite the Sopurkh for those men in my family who do not live anymore? Both of my grandfathers had so much trouble living their lifes – I think that my parents and my sibblings and even my daughter (and me…) are still sort of living or “carrying” those troubles, too. My father and my brother do not want me to recite it for them so I thought I would like to recite it for my grandfathers. Is that possible? Thank you!

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    • Yes it is Rasjot, you can certainly say the So Purkh for men who have passed on. Blessings, Ramdesh

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  16. i need my girlfriend,, she allways fight with me so what can i do plz help me

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  17. My husband was recently chanted for by so purkh, he went to her for a brief period but has come back to me and we are now reunited stronger than ever. I have felt the power of so purkh and would like to use it to strengthen our marriage further, where do I start ?

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  18. since, it is a continuous 40 day recitation, what about the days a women gets her menstrual cycle? In Hinduism, normally we cannot chant mantras during those days. Please suggest how can I complete my 40 days.

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    • We go ahead and continue the recitation during the moon cycle. Blessings, Ramdesh

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  19. i understood that sopurkh should be reicted 11 times a day by women but the word sopurkh should be recited right and it takes few seconds only na.pls do correct if i am wrong.for what purpose this should be recited pls explain briefly i need to know bcoz i am a bit confused pls.in any time normally we have to recit or position or time to recite kindly explain.

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    • Sat nam,

      You recite the entire Shabad that begins with “Sopurkh” 11 times, not just the word itself. Blessings, Ramdesh

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  20. What is mantar for getting girl friend/wife back in life.

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    • Sat nam Pritpal. You cannot use mantra to manipulate another person to doing what you want. That said, a man can use the Adi Shakti mantra to call in the Divine Feminine into his life. “Adi Shakti, Adi Shakti, Adi Shakti, Namo Namo. Sarab Shakti, Sarab Shakti, Sarab Shakti, Namo Namo. Prithaum Bhagvatee, Prithaum Bhagvatee, Prithaum Bhagvatee, Namo Namo. Kundalini Mata Shakti, Mata Shakti, Namo Namo.”

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  21. oh no! me again! I’m a part-time writer, as if you couldn’t tell! There is so much to discuss!
    Again, Ramdesh; correct me if my thinking is not correct; but I believe; if it is what you feel in your heart, it is okay to “wish” or hope that your husband/wife, etc. return; but understand that this not the primary purpose; as Ramdesh discussed. If that happens as a result of the elevation of both of you to your highest potential, then that will happen. I can relate to this feeling, and I imagine ideally one would not be thinking about an “outcome”, but in my case; I just accept where I am and carry along!

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  22. Sat Nam Ramdesh and Ritika (and all!):
    “God speaks all languages”. I love that, and I am going to “borrow” that. It reminds me of what a friend of mine, who is a devout Catholic yet uses other “practices” to enhance to connection to God says: I think God would want me to use any practice that helps me to connect to him, understand others, and become a better person”. I am not well versed in Hinduism Ritika, so I cannot speak to your particular dilemma; but I will tell you how I deal with my spiritual practice – which is constantly evolving. I was born a raised an American Catholic. As a teenager I started practicing Yoga, initially; (as many Americans!) thinking of it mainly as physical exercise. As I came to learn the spiritual component, it really resonated with me and I began to meditate, etc. Later, I discovered Kundalini Yoga and I just “knew” this was a path I wanted to incorporate in my life. I also find Buddhist philosophy and many of their meditations helpful. I still occasionally attend worship services, celebrate the Christian Holidays, prayer, because it is part of my family and my heritage; What most people in my religion would “object” to is what might be considered “worshiping” deities in Buddhism, and Gurus, etc in yoga; as in Catholicism one is to only directly worship “God”. However, there are many prayers (of which I consider mantras, meditation; etc.) to Saints, which I would consider the Catholic version of enlightened beings. To me, this is what deities, Gurus, etc. are; just with a different name; so I see no difference. Of course the “religious” purists make it simple, and correct me if I am wrong Ramdesh; Yoga is not a “religion”, per se; although it is a spiritual practice (in my heart it doesn’t matter what you call them!), but if it helps your HIndu friends understand, perhaps explaining that your Yoga practice is “separate” (even though it might not actually be, but in terms of “technicality”) from your religious practice of Hinduism, therefore it is not subject to Hindu “rules”. This is of course if you feel this in your heart. I think sometimes we feel guilty ourselves that we are “betraying” our religion of origin. I know I initially felt that way, but as my spirituality deepened (I have a long way to go!) I came to believe as my friend and Ramdesh do; the bottom line is really deepening my connection to God, understanding myself, and removing what may be hindering that connection. And getting there is a journey, and there are many paths that lead there; and I believe God will help show us the way. I think when you are more confident in your heart as to what is the best solution for you; it will not matter so much what others think. Sorry this is so long, I hope that some of my experience will help you in grappling with incorporating Yoga into your life, while continuing to practice your religion. A Catholic priest once told me,” to question, to doubt, to search; is what spirituality is all about”. That is what you are doing – you are on the journey, and God WILL speak to you in many languages!

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  23. yep even i want to know the answer to the above question

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  24. yes ramdesh please answer the above question

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  25. ramdesh please answer the above question

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  26. could you please suggest a shabd for men looking for marraige to compatible girl

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    • Sat nam! I don’t believe there is a specific answer for a shabad for a man looking for a compatible wife that I know of, but I would suggest Mangala Saaj Bhai-aa and Bhand Jammee-ai. These shabads address calling in a spouse and honoring women.

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  27. sir, do this so purakh mantra is only for women. then how men should get their loved one back into their life

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    • It’s not ONLY for women, men can do it too. And this isn’t to “get a loved one back into their life”. It’s to enhance and elevate one’s highest potential, so your loved one (if they’ve left) might never come back. Mantras shouldn’t be used to manipulate others or to get people to do things. I’d suggest using the mantra “Bhand Jamee-ai” as a man to heal relationships with women. Blessings, Ramdesh

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  28. You can certainly change the men you hold in your consciousness after 40 days if you’d like, Ritika. And there are some who say that you can do the meditation for as many as you would like, but the official KRI teaching is up to 3 men. You can change the meditation every 40 days if you feel inspired. I would focus more on the process for YOU though, if you are not called to hold particular men in mind, and then see how you feel as you unfold throughout the process. Trust your inner guidance! ~Ramdesh

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  29. Thank you for your advice, Ramdesh! I know we cannot intend this meditation for more than 3 men. After 40 days, can we change the specific people? How often can we change if we continue the meditation past 40 days? There are so many people who would benefit from this that I am at a loss as to whom to choose.

    Thank you!

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  30. Does speaking Gurmukhi instead of Sanskrit go against Hinduism? Sometimes others see me chanting in Gurmukhi during my Kundalini Yoga session, and they think I’m going to convert to Sikhism. I have no intentions to do so, but what is a response I can give to them? Is there a Sanskrit version of So Purkh?

    Thank you!

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    • I’m not the barometer for what goes against Hinduism, but I don’t think chanting in Gurmukhi goes against any religion. Many people from many religions take advantage of these beautiful prayers and the technology of Kundalini yoga. There is no Sanskrit version of So Purkh, although there may be a mantra with similar effect from the vedas, you would need to ask a vedic scholar. As for what to say, you need to give the response from your heart, so they will know what is inside of it. What do I think? I think that God speaks all languages. Namaste and Sat Nam, Ramdesh

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  31. My husband left me almost 3 years back, we are still meeting as we have 3 yrs old son who is living with me. He had filed divorced case and 2 and 1/2 years before and now removed the case. Can I do Sopurkh so that he accept to live with me and my son?

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    • Sat nam Nirmala. You can’t do a particular mantra and know that someone else’s behavior will change to be what you want. We can’t control others, nor should we, as we cannot know what their highest and best destiny is, or how they are meant to work out their karma. You can, however, chant the So Purkh for your husband so that communication between you becomes clearer and so that he is supported in the unfolding of his divine self and so that good things come to him (and to you, for this will also help clear the karma you have with men, which is a very important step.) I would suggest you do the So Purkh for both your husband and your son at the same time. Start with 40 days, then move to 90 and see if more is needed. This will help all of you during this challenging time. Blessings.

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  32. Wonderful.

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  33. I am in. Do I need to sign up?

    Crystal Lake IL

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  34. The Kundalini Yoga teaching, as taught by Yogi Bhajan, is to continue the recitation of the mantra for 40 straight days. That includes during a woman’s moon time, or menstrual cycle. Although this is different than the Hindu tradition and I would suggest you follow the appropriate teachings for the recitation of Sanskrit mantras, rest assured that I have done the Sopurkh recitation during many moon cycles and the energies feel absolutely balanced and appropriate. Sat nam!

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  35. since, it is a continuous 40 day recitation, what about the days a women gets her menstrual cycle? In Hinduism, normally we cannot chant mantras during those days. Please suggest how can I complete my 40 days.

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  36. Sat nam Gurmukh,

    The practice of Sopurkh is really for women to do for men. While reading the holy scripture would be a wonderful thing for you, it won’t necessarily have the effect for her you might hope.

    I would recommend the Adi Shakti mantra, as you pointed out, as well as the Meditation to Heal the Wounds of Love (Mera Man Loche…Prabhu Nam Kaur’s new album Seasons of the Soul has a good version), and also So Darshan Chakra kriya, which you can find on the Meditation Home on Spirit Voyage. So Darshan will help you clear out what is inside of you so that you can better be your authentic self.

    To really effect a change, practice a meditation for 40 straight days minimum, just as you would with the Sopurkh.

    Blessings,
    Ramdesh

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  37. Dear Kathy,

    I’m sorry to say that when you miss a day of meditation, you start over at the beginning. The process is for 40 consecutive days, and all of us have the experience of missing a meditation day and having to start over. It is such a victory when you finally get to 40 days, so don’t be discouraged! Feel the blessing of having the energy of the Sopurkh in your life, start over, and forge ahead to day 40 (and even beyond!)

    Blessings,
    Ramdesh

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  38. I just recently broke up with my girlfriend and I was thinking about doing the sopurkh 11 time recetation a day to let go of all the stuff I have held onto from my past relationships that hindered my last relationship and see if it could help shine a light on bringing my girlfriend and I back together. I feel like she is my soul mate and that we just had some old baggage that was hindering our relationship that we each needed to get rid of on our own before we can come back together and start the new real relationship that would serve our highest selves and help each of us to grow together and as individuals.

    Is the sopurkh meditation only for women or can a man do it as well? As a man should I be doing a Adi Shakti Namo Namo meditation instead to help with the area of love, letting go of old relationship stuff, and attracting my soul mate to me or back to me? Any suggestions would help.

    Thank you so much for your time and energy on all the meditations and answers to peoples questions.

    Love Love Love

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  39. I faithfully began the So Purkh during the last week of May and have had some truly incredible break-throughs just inside of myself during this process – but yesterday (which would have been day 33) I was unable to complete my full 11 repetitions and now I’m concerned that missing that day has broken my goal of 40 straight days.
    Do I need to start over in my count of reaching 40 days? I’m feeling a little devastated by that thought and could use some insights please.

    Blessings and Mahalo nui loa,
    Kathy

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  40. This is a complicated question to answer. The beauty of Nirinjan’s recording of Sopurkh is that it comes in both Gurmukhi and English. Yes, the mantra would work if recited in English, but there is an energy and a power in the actual Gurmukhi words that is not replicated in the English translation. When you are first starting to read in Gurmukhi, it does have an effect but it is not the same precise and potent effect that occurs with proper pronunciation. There are energy meridians on the upper palate that are stimulated when you speak, and more precisely stimulated when you pronounce the words correctly. The shabad guru is the teacher in the sacred Gurmukhi words, and that shabad guru is an energy that is carried on the words, correctly spoken. The shabad guru is also that energy that is carried in your heart by the purity of your intentions. My advice to you is to work with Nirinjan’s recording in Gurmukhi, attempting to speak the words as she does, forgiving yourself when you make mistakes. Keep it up, honoring the divine within you that will improve day by day. One day, you will realize how far you have come.

    Enjoy the process, it works wonders.

    Sat nam

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  41. What if you are brand new at reciting Gurmukhi, would it be a while before it would be effective to recite So Purkh? Would this work if one were to recite it in English, or would it only be effective to recite it in Gurmukhi?

    Thank you for posting this.
    Sat Nam.

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  42. Thank you so much for your reply…I’m definitely going to purchase from the suggested link and I’ve already printed off my copy of the words. I can already feel the depth of healing that this is offering me…I just know this is going to be life-changing and I am deeply grateful to you for this post.

    Blessings!

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  43. Sat Nam,

    Beautiful article. Synchronsitic too – I have been listening to So Purkh continuously in the background for 4 days now. I find it soothing to listen to.

    So Purkh also removes any obstacles preventing a man fom connecting to his inner Teacher / Guru.

    A couple years ago my wife, and I did a 40 day meditation together – I did the tratakum by candle light as she recited So Purkh beside me for 31 mins. Her prayer was to remove any blocks between and me and Yogi Bhajan. It was very powerful meditation. As a result, I have a strong subtle connection to Yogi Bhajan and she was truly able to forgive the men from her past that had betrayed her.

    Peace to ALL,

    Catalyst Yogi

    http://budurl.com/2jjr

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  44. Sat nam Kathy,

    It is 11 repetitions of the mantra. The recording IS 11 repetitions, so it takes 31 minutes total. It doesn’t take 5 1/2 hours! :) If you cannot devote 31 minutes to it, you can spread your 11 recitations out over the day. Check Spirit Voyage’s Mantra pedia for the words! Nirinjan’s recording is so helpful when you are first learning pronunciation and is a really beautiful meditation support! You can also leave it playing in your home all day to raise the vibration!

    Blessings

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  45. This is beautiful! And so healing – something in me said “let’s do this’!! I just have one question…it says to do this 11 times a day, but the recording is a little over 30 minutes long. Is the recording of the “11 times” or is it just once through, because that would be 5 1/2 hours devoted to this, every day!
    Mahalo nui loa!

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