I’m getting married over Labor Day weekend! Our commitment to having a small, casual ceremony allows me to forgo (most of) the wedding planning stress that so many modern brides face, and to focus on what I think matters more – the rest of our lives together! I knew that I wanted to do a 40 day sadhana to prepare for marriage. I spent some time reflecting on what I felt would be the best focus for my sadhana, and combed my yoga books for the perfect kriyas and meditations. While my sadhana is tailored for my specific needs, there are some key points that can help anyone create a perfect sadhana to prepare for marriage.
Clear your arc line. Clear your karma.
The arc line is one of the 10 bodies recognized in Kundalini yoga. It provides guidance to our auras, and when strong it can protect us from the thoughts and projections of others. It also acts like a recorder, by picking up and absorbing vibrations. Our arc lines contain imprints of our experiences and our relationships – things we don’t necessarily want to bring with us into our marriages. This is particularly true for women, as we have a second arc line that runs across our chest.
We may also have karma around things like money, sex, and relationships that affects us in our relationship with our partner. While karma can feel like a punishment, this isn’t the case. Karma is simply the effects of the vibrations we put out coming back to us.
There is a wonderful meditation in the book The Master’s Touch called “Meditation for the Arcline and to Clear the Karmas.” Practicing this meditation, or any other meditation to help clear your karma, will allow you to start your marriage with fresh energy.
Involve your partner as much as possible.
As you’re about to embark on your lives together, doing 40 days of yoga as a couple is a great way to bring yourselves in tune with each other. Venus Kriyas are a wonderful way for couples to practice yoga together, and only take a few minutes! Mirabai Ceiba’s new album Sacred Love Meditations is designed for couples to practice together, though the meditations can also be done solo.
If your main squeeze doesn’t do yoga, you can still keep him or her posted on how it’s going, and share any “yoga dreams” you have. If he or she has their own spiritual or religious practice, consider asking them to spend some time each day praying or meditating about your upcoming marriage.
Consider doing your sadhana in the Amrit Vela.
Trust me, no one likes getting up at 4AM for any reason. Yogi Bhajan said “Doesn’t matter how saintly you are, nobody wants to get up in the ambrosial hours.” But if ever there was a time to harness the tremendous potential for cleansing and healing that exists before sunrise, it is in the 40 days before marriage. Tremendous life changes call for tremendous yoga practices, so now is a good time to really dive in. The manual Sadhana Guidelines has great information on the theory behind sadhana, and also kriyas and meditations that you could use to prepare yourself for marriage. The kriya “Magnetic Field and Heart Center” can help to stimulate your heart center and your aura, and the meditation “Guru Ram Das Rhythmic Harmony for Happiness” will bring you meditative peace.
Whether you plan to do your sadhana in the early morning hours or in the evening after work, at some point your initial enthusiasm for a 40 day sadhana will come up against resistance. This is where it helps to have community support. Tell as many people as you can about your plan to do 40 days of yoga in preparation for your wedding. Encourage them to ask you how it’s going periodically. Have someone you can call for pep talks, to remind you WHY you are doing it, and to help keep you focused.
As Gurmukh says on the DVD Kundalini Yoga for Circulation and Detoxification, “You can do anything. For however long you need to do anything, you can do it and you will do it. And patience always pays.” These 40 days will set you up for a successful marriage for years to come, so enjoy the process!
Remember that marriage is a journey.
Weddings are wonderful, but the work of a marriage is a journey that will hopefully last a lifetime. Commit to working with your partner to build a strong relationship. Your prenuptial sadhana will help to set the groundwork, but don’t stop there! Continue practicing yoga, communicating with each other, and building a wonderful life together. Divine Relationships by Nam Kaur Khalsa and Siri Atma Singh Khalsa gives excellent information about building and sustaining a healthy relationship with your partner.