The holiday season is here, and with it comes family gatherings! While hanging out with relatives can be nice, it can also bring up long-held tensions between family members. As much as we may love our parents, siblings, and extended family, sometimes difficult situations come up when we get together.
We all know that yoga asanas and meditation can help us manage stress, but what if we want something specifically targeted towards helping to smooth our relationships with family? Kundalini Yoga offers specific ways to raise our own vibration, and prayers for relatives, so we can sit around the family table in peace.
So Purkh is a beautiful, powerful prayer that women can say for the men in their lives. If you have brothers, uncles, or a father and you’d like to strengthen your relationship with them, chant So Purkh 11 times a day for up to 3 men, to help elevate them. So Purkh is a fairly lengthy shabad, but worth the effort for the amazing results it can bring!
Ant Na Siphtee comes from the 24th pauri of Japji, and Yogi Bhajan taught that it can break through generational blocks. If there’s one relative you’re constantly rehashing the same issues and patterns with each year, try chanting Ant Na Siphtee to break through those blocks and create a smoother relationship.
Bhand Jamee-ai is a beautiful prayer that honors the Feminine. Men can chant it for the women in their lives, similar to the way women chant So Purkh for men. Bhand Jamee-ai can also be chanted by women to elevate themselves, and honor the Divine Feminine within them. If you have tension with your mother, you can chant these words to begin the healing process.
The book Praana Praanee Praanayam has so many fantastic meditations and exercises that it’s difficult to choose where to start. When dealing with others, the only thing we can control is our self. With that in mind, meditations like Conquer your Shortcomings, Stimulating Virtue, or the Exercise to Simply Make you a Saint could all be helpful to prepare for times of togetherness.
Malas can serve a dual purpose. A mala of amethyst beads can help protect you from negative vibrations. Also, they serve as a physical reminder of your practice, which may help you remember to breathe/chant/pray/meditate when you need to.